31DayReset: Day31

Challenge: WRITE YOUR OWN EULOGY

Its kind of short, but this is what i want it to say,

"A Good wife, Wonderful mother, sister and friend. I was not here to be rememered, i was here to prepare. prepare for eternity. Learned. Lived. Loved"

This is me raising the bar higher and helping myself achieve this, so it can honestly be said about me.

Now i have come to the end of the reset program, and i cannot be more glad that i did this.

Thank you for following my journey and i really really hope some of it inspired you as much as it did me.

Thaankkkkkkkkkk Yoooouu!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!*Huge Huge*

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31DayReset: Day 30

Challenge: Create a vision board.

I have a mental vision board and it almost similar to my life's Map, and frankly I don't know how 'm going to go about this, so I think I would just pass.

I'm glad this "Journey" is over, its just the beginning of a lot more experiences, this is just a platform for me to be more aware of some of these things I had to work on. I'm so sooo glad I did this, I kinda feel liberated in some way, I'm also almost done with my other 40days journey that I am doing on the side, its been an eye opening experience, maybe I would write a post on it later.

Thanks for stopping by,

Love!
Tomilola

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31DayReset: Day 29

Challenge: Write Your Bucket List.

For those of you that don't know what it means, things you want to do before you kick the bucket...

Here's Mine

Disclaimer: She is a very boring girl
In no particular order

1. Learn to Swim *Calling Aramaanda*
2. Kart Racing
3. Beach photoshoot with the boyfriend (errrmm.... Can we scratch?)
4. Sky dive? Indoors? *_o
5. Hang out with friends... Who has this on a bucket list?
Ok, lemmie quickly explain why this is here. I always make plans to hang with "friends" but I never see it through, so I'm guessing one day one day I wee sha get up and go! Soooon x_x

6. Start the NGO
7. Learn the bible: This is some form of motivation/ Reminder
8. Stand under a waterfall without fear -_-
9. Swim in a large body of water
10. Visit an Aqua museum
11. Enter a plane x_x
12. Learn French or Spanish
13. Write a mind blowing story
14. Be behind the camera - Dreamt about this last night *dancing*
15. Try Yoga... Seriously!
16. Buy plenty cook books and try mende mende.
17. Have a kid! Yes, I know! Its just very important noni :)
18. There is this waterfall in Africa.... Niagra falls (Did I get that right?) I wanna go there!
19. Watch the Sunrise with someone special and take picturesS
20. Sleep under the stars and not worry about mosquitoes....... iWish!

Lemmie stop! :D

Do you have a bucket list? Wanna share? Would love to read yours!
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One of those days that You know you are hungry (because you've not eaten all day) You cooked but you can't just get yourself to eat and NOTHING is wrong with you. Any cure?

Thanks for stopping by,

Love! :*
Tomilola

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31DayReset- Day 28

Today’s Challenge: LET GO OF THE PAST


Frankly i have dealt with alot of things that i was holding on to and i talked about some here and here There is really nothing more to deal with except maybe i don't know about it...

So, in the spirit of letting go,i deleted the 156 opened chats on my bbm and reduced it to 7... i know, i get attached to tiny tiny things like that x_x

All 'm doing now is trying to not get too attached to alot of things, started with twitter and i think i've weaned myself good, as much as i am tempted to go through  my TL, i just reply my dms, when i do get a notification and i get off, would def go back as soon as i feel i can actually do without it.

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Day 27

Challenge: Revive your Love life.


This is a sensitive issue for me right now. Why? Errmmmm I don't wanna tell. Anyways there is just so much I can do about the "Love life" as it is right now.

So, about reviving? I would say there is nothing left here to revive, we can only hire a pastor to help conduct the funeral service of this love life because its going 6ft under.

P.S: Goodluck to you that would be trying to dig up the remains. I so don't envy you, at the same time we don't know what God can do.

P.P.S: My phone is faulty right now (I just found out) :( So, I may not get to post regularly except when the network on my modem allows. :(( No more bbm, no more blogging *hot tears* Trying to get someone to look at it for me tho', just might be back before you say Blink :D

Thanks for stopping by,

Love!

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31DayReset: Day 25 & 26

Day 25; Challenge: Find a Community to support your goals.
Today's exercise requires you to explore different groups that you could join as part of your personal development journey.

This I would love to do, but my own question is where?? Which community?? I've never seen anything like this (I'm sure they exist sha) but as soon as I see, would definitely not let the opportunity pass me by.

Would Probably do some exploring when I get back to lagos!

Or if you know anyone, can you please help a sister?? Thanks *kisses*

Day 26; Challenge: Make a new Friend
The idea is that through your new support groups, you now have new opportunities. The more like-minded people you align yourself with, the less lonely it will be on the road towards reaching your goals.

New Friend? Have I finished being a good friend to the pack I have already?? Issokai! Ok! Seriously I have A LOT of friends, and over the past 3-4weeks I've met new ones, I can't say I'm tired of meeting new people because some of them just end up being super amazing, although I have friends but I still manage to feel lonely most of the time, where are you people? Don't they check on people in your villages??? *rme*

I don't want to have a new friend, I want to have friends that really really care, abi? Is that too much to ask from y'll?? Because I really don't know how to open up to people again (experience) I don't know if that's a good thing or not but one thing I know is somewhere somewhere down there is a heart that cherishes friendship and would love to share that with people that are worth it anytime of the day, just name the place ;)

P.s: I soo want a female bestie, one that is not far away from me, one that can knock sense into me whenever I'm being me( I do that a lot x_x), one that is super spontaneous and will drag my butt outta the house to have clean, legal fun, the adventurous type, one that would cry with me and laugh with me and I promise to always be there for you too :) If this is you and you wanna be my friend plss do get at me *puppy eyes*

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Ever been in a position where all hope seems lost, but, you know its not lost and you don't know how you know? You just know! Anyone? *sigh*

Have a lovely Sunday and thanks for stopping by.

Love :* :* :*

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31DayReset: Day 23&24

Day 23 – PLAN YOUR RESET PROJECT

The exercise is to choose one specific area from your life map to make progress on within the next month. This should be from one of the several major areas of your life.

I've decided to focus on my health for the next month. Health is wealth right? The aspects of my health would be

     * Physical
     * Spiritual
     * Emotional
   

Physical Health: This would involve the food i eat, the exercises and generally what i do with my body.

I am gradually cutting red meat out of my daily meals (not like a eat 3 square meals x_x) and trying to replace with goat meat, I hear its d healthiest form of meat *shrugs* plus its sweeter but I don't know where to get it here :( still asking around tho'. I'm also cutting out a lot of carbohydrate, ate rice just once in 3weeks, its a miracle! Its only the garri that doesn't go :/

So, all I plan to eat is, aloooot of fruits and vegetables (bought some today) Oats, Yam, Spaghetti........ Seee? Not a lot of options *sigh* I would make do with this :D mean while I would be on 9jaFoodie's website.

Spiritual: I plan to keep reading my bible and communicating with God, keep reminding my self that knowing him is all a process and it takes time.

Emotional: I'm emotionally stable now tho', my head is clear, so is my heart so, I would fight to keep it that way. I have so much love to give right now, 'm channeling it all to my close friends and family, and the people that need it I guess.

Day 24: Rest, Reflect and comment!

Glad this is almost over, so glad that I'm growing and God is giving me strength to get through the week.

I loved the "Stop Complaining" Challenge, its just reminded me that there is always something to be thankful for, and even when your day is not going so well you can sit back and think of the silver lining in every circumstance.

Starting a side hustle is kinda difficult at this stage, because a lot of things are not in order right now, but hopefully before the end of the year, I would have something concrete! Excited!

Looking forward to a lovely weekend (Not like anything special is happening tho') I would be having fun hanging out with myself as always :D!

Have a lovely weekend.

Thanks for stopping by - Again!

Love, Always.

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31DayReset: Day 22

Challenge: Start a side hustle

I have been thinking about a side hustle for a while now, and I've chosen an aspect of my "interests" but I want to go and learn more about it first, and I'm making plans for that when am done in this my "village", the come up with a business plan of some sort but I have a name already :D that's a start right??? I can't talk about it now, you know? Don't wanna jinx it, soon! Very soon! I'm super excited!!!

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When I came here I just seem to notice the moon more, this place has the best moonlight ever (maybe till I see another better) and its like they are blessed with full moons almost everyday. Its amazing!

So used to the moon here that I can tell the time of the night by what position the moon is from my room :) best part? I don't have to sit outside to enjoy the view.. I just look out my window and its staring back at me. Beautiful!!!!!!!!! ^_^

View From my room

Another View

My best shot of the moon

Thanks  for  stopping by,
Love.

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31DayReset: Day21

Today’s Challenge: STOP COMPLAINING FOR TWENTY-FOUR HOURS.

Today’s exercise requires you to monitor your own complaints and replace them with something more productive: gratitude.

Step 1:
Take your Reset notebook around with you today and write down every instance where you complain about something no matter how inconsequential it may seem.
 Step 2:
 For each instance, write down a statement of gratitude to combat the complaint. Think about the “silver lining” in each of your compliant.

I complain a lot, didn't realise that till today, although I wasn't with my book every step of today but I remember some complaining I did.

- I complained about standing up this morning; I slept at 4am and I was tired.

Silver lining: I woke up today, and am grateful to God

- Complained about my stolen jeans, as I would have worn it today

Silver lining: All my cloths are not stolen

- My new students are so playful, annoying and dull (Pardon me)

Silver lining: *Searching* Ok! I get to impact knowledge :D

- I had this emergency clearance today, so I had to rush back and forth from home to work before I could sign *phew*

Silver lining: A lot of other corpers were not around for the head count. So, :D

- It rained, and I had to go back to work, didn't get a bike early, my hair was wet, I was cold..........

Silver lining: This raining season is waaaaaaaaaay better than the hot weather

- Complained about not having what to eat, not having the time to go to d market, not having more options of food to eat *sigh*

Silver lining: I still have food and I'm not starving

- Complained about the light when I got home

Sliver lining: **Still Searching** I mean its NEPA, can there be a lining??? :/

- Complained about the snoring coming from the next room, since my neighbour had this visitor, there has been snoring coming from the room at night

Silver Lining: I have loud music. I sooooo don't envy that guy that has to sleep in the same room with the snorer!!

I know something I didn't complain about. How sweet my food was :D I tried sisi yemi's party jollof rice and I let it buuurrrrrnnnnn and my pot is still soaking, it was gooood, I was so proud of myself!

Although I complained a lot today (Some I can't remember) but am reminded that there can be a silver lining for every complain and we just have to pay attention and be thankful.

who goes back to say "Thanks"?

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I had tears in my eyes, I didn't realise till it fell out, its so hard watching a very very close friend go through stuff and you can't do anything about it, especially when its changing the person and everything they used to believe in. Sometimes I wish I could do more. I really was sad and I said a prayer for him and hopefully he won't slip away. If you find yourself reading this, please don't slip away. I do care!!!

P:s: What do you do when your visitor can't stop snoring???????

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It feels Good!

I did something today and the normal me would get back home from work, curl up in her bed and cry.. But things aint normal anymore, and I'm glad.

I walked back from work a few mins ago (So I could think alil) sitting outside my house and I'm smiling sheepishly to myself really tomilola? I'm so loving this new you!

I must say obeying God feels so good, feels like a weight has been lifted off your shoulder, really for me, it made sense not to do what I did today, but he has been hinting me to do it anyways and todays was the clearest. So I did! I won't say it wasn't hard, but it pays! Now I feel even better than I already felt!


I honestly can't thank God enough for all he has done for me for the past few weeks, I'm still here humble, living everyday and learning even more as the day go by.

All things work together for good for those that love God!!!


P.s: Forgive someone today. It feels good!

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31DayReset: Day 20

Challenge: Remove negative People from your life.

The kind of person I am, I have a default distant-from-negative-people thing going on, most times I would have gone far from the person before I realise sef, which is a good thing I think. All of a sudden it occurred to me that if I keep distancing myself how would I have the opportunity to influence the person positively?
Hmmmmm...... Huge right?
Looking at it from that angle, no one is perfect right? And most times we have alot of negative thoughts ourselves, so instead of just "distancing" myself I would rather filter their energy, try not to get influenced by the negative energy some people expel.
Yeah, too much of everything is not good, and there are some people that are just ALWAYS negative (I know some), those kind of people, instead of totally writing them off, I would pick my conversations with them, definitely nothing personal and once I get the negative vibe from a general conversation, I switch off ( Ask my former boss :x).
Right now, I don't have A LOT of people in my close inner circle life and the ones I have there are hand picked and definitely NOT negative people, I can condone a lil bit of negativity because we gotta be honest we all have some bad energy lurking around somewhere and we need to let it out sometimes however what I can't and would NOT condone is constant, I mean CONSTANT negativity.... If you've not met people like that, I have and they exist and I moved faaaaaaaarr with no regret!!
While I'm moving far from negative people, I would also be working on getting rid of negative thoughts.

P.s: Try and surround yourself with laughter, music and love because what goes in is what comes out.
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This I was meditating upon today:

I know the source. The source is right.
I drank. Still not filled.
I reached out. Thin air.
This is the source. Never been more sure.
What am I missing?
Point to the source of the source? Would you? Let me double check.
I drink. Still empty.
I reach out. Can't grasp.
I won't stop. I will get there.
Even if it takes everything.
I will get there.
To the source of the source.
Then I asked myself, do I really feel empty? Or its just one of those times God feels distant?
Something is missing and I can feel it.
Dear God, Fill me. Show me. Make me understand. Help me. Speak to me!

Thanks for stopping by,
Love!!

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31DayReset: Day 18&19

Challenge: Rest Reflect and Comment

1. What was the most important thing you learnt about yourself this week?

2. What has been your favourite exercise so far and what did you like about it?

3. Which exercise did you struggle with the most and why?

Ans:

1. I learnt that I don't necessary have to go through this alone (Accountability Partner Challenge) and there are little things that make me happy, I've just not been paying so much attention to it. You would just wonder how much time you have to do other stuff when you just drop your phone or ditch the t.v!

2. Writing out my ideal life. Just picturing it alone made me grin from ear-to-ear, gave me a vision as to what I should be working towards and not wasting time on things that don't matter and it also helps my focus.

3. 100 things that make you happy. The difficult part was thinking about the things, although I know I didn't complete 100 but I'm glad I did that little sef, I realised the little things that made me happy and I didn't realise until I took time to really think about it. :D

Day 19: Challenge; Get Rid of stuffs you don't need.

I keep shouting at home that I don't have cloths EVERYTIME!! When I look into my stuffs I keep wondering where this came from, I'm very attached to MY stuff although when I finished from school, I gave out most of my cloths, I still have more. My plan was when I finish from niger I would take more than half my stuff back home (because I plan to go back to school) then again, in the spirit of decongesting I would give out MOST of my everything that I have here, this gives me 2months to start detaching myself from everything *Hot Tears* This is soooo not easy, but even the bible says "Give it shall be given unto you..." So..... *Insert happy face here*

...................................................................................................................I want to highlight a couple of things I learnt personally this week.

* True strength is from the most high
* Life is meant to be shared, I need others in my life
* Life is all about Love
* Relationships are worth restoring
* Learn to forgive
* Sometimes we need to avoid conflict, sometimes we need to create it, and sometimes we need to resolve it.
* Say "I'm Sorry"
* You are where you are for a purpose, Find it.
* Be aware of God's Presence always, because he never leaves.

Thanks for stopping by,

Love!

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31DayReset: Day 17

Challenge: Create a Self Care Plan

Your self care plan should be about you physical and mental health. Getting in tune with your inner and outer self. It should help you become aware about your thoughts, as well as what you put in your body.

My Self Care Plan

- Eat Breakfast
- Try Yoga
- Drink plenty water daily
- Exercise for at least 15mins daily
- Cut out most Junk food
- Get a good therapist
- Write flash cards of God's promises for you.
- Meditate on God's word
- Talk to God
- Talk to myself
- Talk to my friends about stuff

I know I'm behind on this, but Glo hasn't exactly been the network of the year. I'm sorry!


Thanks for stopping by.

Love

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31Day Reset: Day 16

Challenge: Write out 100 things that make you happy

Yeeaahhh!!!! 100?? That's a whole lot, but thinking about it is making me have a huge grin already. Leggo!!

- Buying a book/ Being in a book store
- Hanging out with family
- Hanging out with .....
- Wedges/Shoes
- Making-Up
- Playing Dress up
- Completing a task
- Ticking everything on my to-do list
- Listening to good music
- Staying alone
- My Blog
- Being able to spend my money
- Sope
- Creative Writing
- Reading
- When things go according to plan
- Praise and Worship
- Reading and understanding the word
- Green
- HighLands
- Mountains
- Red Biro
- Black Biro
- Staying up between 1 and 4am
- The Moon
- Kirk Franklin's Songs
- Bracelets
- Twitter
- Burgers
- Looking Slim x_x
- Dates
- Movies
- Making my "lists"
- Dancing
- The smell of books
- Dresses
- A good working laptop
- Creative Photography

100 Yet??? I'm not even counting
- Making fun of my sisters
- Teasing my dad and Mum
- Reading old journals
- Waterfalls
- Pools - bur I cannot swim x_x
- Trying New things
- Good Internet Connection
- My hair
- Sitting long hours in the toilet.
- Long hot bath
- Saturday "make over"
- BBM
- Photoshoot
- ME, Myself and I
- Arike
- Sleek Cars
- Kisses
- Cuddling
- Sunday afternoon Nap
- Good signal on the fine boy antenna
- Did I say shoes?? Okay!!
- Journalssssssssssss!!!!!!!!!
- Thinking aloud while taking a stroll
- Flat Tummy
- Modern interior Designs
- "Serenre" Cooking
- Being naughty

What number now? You not counting too? Okay lemmie go on

- Love
- People trusting me
- Talking to myself.

*Phew*

- Purple
- Being in Church (New found Joy)
- Smokey Eyes
- Peace and Quiet

I don't think its 100 yet but o boy.. This is hard work oh!!

Thinking about it well, just made me realise that there are a lot of things that make me grin from ear to ear without even knowing it. I'm glad!!

Thanks for stopping by,

Love.

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What Matters Most

I have been reading a book over the past 2weeks, Its a day-by-day guide to help discover your life's purpose, this book in many ways than I can explain has helped me deal with things I've been going through these past weeks, something about todays (Day 16) hits me close to home and I felt I should share what I learnt.

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Life is all about Love. God is Love. The most important lesson he wants you to learn on earth is how to love.

"The whole law has been summed up in this command: 'Love others as you love yourself'"

Love should be your top priority, primary objective and greatest ambition. Love is not a good part of your life; its the most important part. Its not enough to say "one of the things I want in life is to be loving" as if its in your top-ten list. Relationships must have priority in your life above everything else. Why? Life without Love is really worthless. Often we act as if relationships are something to be squeezed into our schedule. We talk about "finding" time for our children or "making" time for people in our live. That gives the impression that relationships are just a part of our lives along with many tasks. But God says relationships are what life is all about.

Four of the 10 Commandments deal with our relationship with God while the other Six deal with our relationships with people. But all ten are about relationships! Later, Jesus summarized what matters most to God in two statements: Love God and love people

Matthew 22: 37-40 " You must love the lord your God with all your heart....' This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important 'love your neighbor as yourself' All the other commandments and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments'

Relationships, not achievements or the acquisition of things, are what matters most in life, So who do we allow our relationships get the shorter end of the stick? When our schedule becomes overload, we start skimming relationally, cutting back on giving the time, energy, and attention that loving relationship require. What's most important to God is displaced by what's urgent.

Busyness is a great enemy of relationships. We become preoccupied with making a living, doing work, paying bills, and accomplishing goals as if these tasks are the point of life. They are not. The point of life is learning to love - God and People. Life minus love is Zero.

Why do we make love our priority? Because unlike anything else Love will last forever. Love is eternal.

"These three things continue forever: Faith, hope, and love. And the greatest of these is Love" 1Corinthians 13:13

Love leaves a legacy. How you treated other people, not your wealth or accomplishments, is the most enduring impact you can leave on earth.

"Its not what you do, but how much love you put into it that matters" - Mother Teresa

You never hear anyone on their deathbeds saying "Bring me my diplomas! I want to look at them one more time. Show me my awards, my medals, that gold watch I was given" When life on earth is ending, people don't surround themselves with objects. What we want around us is people - people we love and have relationships with. Wisdom is learning the truth sooner rather than later. Don't wait until you're on your deathbed to figure out nothing matters more.

In heaven God won't say "Tell me about your career, your bank account, and your hobbies" instead he will review how you treated others. When you transfer to eternity all you're taking with you is your character.

The best expression of love is time. The importance of things can be measures by how much time we are willing to invest in them. The more time you give to something, the more you reveal its importance and value to you.

You can make more money, but you can't make more time. When you give someone your time, your giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back. That's why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.
Its not enough to "say" relationships are more important; we must prove it by investing time in them

"My children, our love should not be just words and talk; it must be true love, which shows itself in action" IJohn 3: 18

NOTHING can take the place of you time, your ears, your eyes, your attention, your presence in a relationship. The essence of love is NOT what we thing or do or provide for others, but how much of ourselves we give.

The best use of life is love. The best expression of love is time. The best time to love is now.

Dear God, whether I get anything done today, I want to make sure that I spend time loving you and loving other people - because that's what life is all about. I don't want to waste this day.

P.S: Who says the Bible doesn't have all the Answers?

Thanks for stopping by.

Love.

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