Confessions of a Horny Virgin: Almost doesn't count
Posted by Tomi O on Wednesday, December 18, 2013 with 12 comments
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".... there are virgins due to lack of opportunity. They do all sorts except the tearing of the hymen part which I don't consider as being true to one's virgin nature and totally not God's definition of being a virgin" - Comment on the Introduction
I saw this and smiled because I am probably the face of the How-far-can-I-go-and-still-Remain-Saved section of #TeamV and Also a share holder in the board of directors of the He-Sha-Didn't-Penetrate Section as well.
Maybe I wasn't listening so well in Sunday school, oh scratch that, nobody teaches things like that in sunday school. I sha didn't know not loosing your 'virginity' or not letting go of your hymen did not mean purity - Which ideally, is supposed to be the aim of keeping yourself in the first place. Today I know better.
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I wasn't in the clouds for too long as I felt him really close to me and all that came to mind was
"Possibility of getting pregnant"
"No more school" I really didn't mind having the sex BUT I took my mothers threat seriously, so I gave myself brain at that moment.
I also kept thinking of the fact that we would give the hotel staff blood stain to wash, the sight didn't look good.
After properly adjusting my head back on the grounds, looking at him I knew he wasn't anywhere close to the earth, I brought him back quickly
"No"
"but, we are here already"
"Its painful"
"It won't hurt, don't worry"
And I kid you not, we were there in that same exact position for almost an hour, going back and forth. It wasn't funny. The week after wasn't funny as well as I had to walk bearing the pains in my thigh, couldn't tell anyone ofcourse, Why would I want to tanish my innocent image by being the one spending time with a boy in AN HOTEL ROOM!!!
Between, That was the first night. I did get my wish, we did the next 2 nights in the brother-sister kind of way. I got my period.
I am one of the girls that doesn't bother to count because, I'm a virgin - duhhh - I am confident nothing has happened and I will even be happy when the thing doesn't come.
I was happy at the accuracy of this one. With massive cramps and a non-heartless boyfriend. I scaled through the weekend and remained #TeamV
Now, My stupidity - for lack of a better word - brought me close to loosing it again, time and time again.
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Going to the stream and expecting water not to touch you is the height of stupidity, This was the theme of my sexual-not-so-sexual life. I Would go visit/spend a night at a guy/man's (as the case my be) place 'Innocently' and expect him not to touch me or make sexual advances towards me.
I had the "Nothing below the belt" policy or I get let of the hook when I say "I've never done this before" Now, you might call it luck, but I later saw the hand of God in all these 'places' I went because, I took risks. Risk of being raped, risk of getting pregnant, risk of contacting diseases. Sigh.
Something had to change, Really.
It did.
Final Episode on Friday!
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Going to the stream and expecting water not to touch you is the height of stupidity, This was the theme of my sexual-not-so-sexual life. I Would go visit/spend a night at a guy/man's (as the case my be) place 'Innocently' and expect him not to touch me or make sexual advances towards me.
I had the "Nothing below the belt" policy or I get let of the hook when I say "I've never done this before" Now, you might call it luck, but I later saw the hand of God in all these 'places' I went because, I took risks. Risk of being raped, risk of getting pregnant, risk of contacting diseases. Sigh.
Something had to change, Really.
It did.
Final Episode on Friday!
Categories: Horny Virgin, Reality
Believe me,it's the hand of God that has kept many of people and not lack of opportunity.it's part of the blessings from Him.I used to think too,that not having full blown sex=purity,till God opened my eyes...good job.God bless Tomi and the writer.
ReplyDeleteExactly. I'm glad we have a witness.
DeleteGod bless you too. :)
Hmm, friday, come already
ReplyDeleteLol.
DeleteYay. :)
Sigh I feel like this is me. I've taken some serious risks in this life. I remember writing once in my journal that I think God has special plans for me, cos I keep getting so close and then somehow, it just doesn't happen.
ReplyDeleteIt sure causes us to take a step back and think doesn't it :)
DeleteLack of opportunity and sometimes God steps in to keep us virgins for as long as possible.
ReplyDeleteA lot of people used (still do) visit my house because of photocopying and other stuffs. On a fateful afternoon there was this girl who we used to have something who came over and we did everything possible, touched all the touchable and just when the zippers were about to be unzipped the bell rang - someone came to make a photocopy. What happened? I thought to myself! How possible is it that No one came to ring that bell or even knock for over an hour? It doesn't happen! Even when the devil thought he had it, God still stepped in. I was saved - literally - by the bell.
That clearly wasn't lack of opportunity but intervention of God. I remained on #TeamV a while longer after that day because I was made aware of a weakness and never got myself in that situation for as long as I could.
God's definition or not, I think it's more of if we've learned a lesson from what we were just saved from.
Oh wow!!
DeleteI can totally relate. "I was saved - literally - by the bell. " That made me chuckle.
The most important thing is that we are learning from all the mistakes!
Thanks for sharing. I appreciate.
I've got a different definition of virginity. Maybe you all do not go with it.
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's until deflowering that one loses virginity. I think it's just mere standard setting which I do not go with.
If Virginity= Purity, do we say one exposed to all form of coital stuffs, except the intercourse, is still a virgin?
If I say- oh! I've not got penetrated, so I am a virgin; I am indirectly saying that eating snack means no food since it doesn't make one okay.
I didn't say virginity = Purity, its actually the other way around (Technically).
DeleteThe point being made is, We should stop thinking Virginity just the hymen, it goes way beyond that.
Yes, Virginity to the world means not to have been penetrated, but that is the world, We are in the world but we are not of the world.
I believe as Christians that Love the Lord, our body is the temple of the Lord and should be treated as so, Not even only in the matter of physical purity, but also things we eat and stuff like that.
I don't understand your analogy with the food and snacks oh, If you will be kind enough to explain further.
Thanks for stopping by
Gbam! Virgin due to lack of opportunity! hahahahahaha
ReplyDeleteLol. We plenty :)
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