31DayReset: Day 23&24

Day 23 – PLAN YOUR RESET PROJECT

The exercise is to choose one specific area from your life map to make progress on within the next month. This should be from one of the several major areas of your life.

I've decided to focus on my health for the next month. Health is wealth right? The aspects of my health would be

     * Physical
     * Spiritual
     * Emotional
   

Physical Health: This would involve the food i eat, the exercises and generally what i do with my body.

I am gradually cutting red meat out of my daily meals (not like a eat 3 square meals x_x) and trying to replace with goat meat, I hear its d healthiest form of meat *shrugs* plus its sweeter but I don't know where to get it here :( still asking around tho'. I'm also cutting out a lot of carbohydrate, ate rice just once in 3weeks, its a miracle! Its only the garri that doesn't go :/

So, all I plan to eat is, aloooot of fruits and vegetables (bought some today) Oats, Yam, Spaghetti........ Seee? Not a lot of options *sigh* I would make do with this :D mean while I would be on 9jaFoodie's website.

Spiritual: I plan to keep reading my bible and communicating with God, keep reminding my self that knowing him is all a process and it takes time.

Emotional: I'm emotionally stable now tho', my head is clear, so is my heart so, I would fight to keep it that way. I have so much love to give right now, 'm channeling it all to my close friends and family, and the people that need it I guess.

Day 24: Rest, Reflect and comment!

Glad this is almost over, so glad that I'm growing and God is giving me strength to get through the week.

I loved the "Stop Complaining" Challenge, its just reminded me that there is always something to be thankful for, and even when your day is not going so well you can sit back and think of the silver lining in every circumstance.

Starting a side hustle is kinda difficult at this stage, because a lot of things are not in order right now, but hopefully before the end of the year, I would have something concrete! Excited!

Looking forward to a lovely weekend (Not like anything special is happening tho') I would be having fun hanging out with myself as always :D!

Have a lovely weekend.

Thanks for stopping by - Again!

Love, Always.

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31DayReset: Day 22

Challenge: Start a side hustle

I have been thinking about a side hustle for a while now, and I've chosen an aspect of my "interests" but I want to go and learn more about it first, and I'm making plans for that when am done in this my "village", the come up with a business plan of some sort but I have a name already :D that's a start right??? I can't talk about it now, you know? Don't wanna jinx it, soon! Very soon! I'm super excited!!!

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When I came here I just seem to notice the moon more, this place has the best moonlight ever (maybe till I see another better) and its like they are blessed with full moons almost everyday. Its amazing!

So used to the moon here that I can tell the time of the night by what position the moon is from my room :) best part? I don't have to sit outside to enjoy the view.. I just look out my window and its staring back at me. Beautiful!!!!!!!!! ^_^

View From my room

Another View

My best shot of the moon

Thanks  for  stopping by,
Love.

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31DayReset: Day21

Today’s Challenge: STOP COMPLAINING FOR TWENTY-FOUR HOURS.

Today’s exercise requires you to monitor your own complaints and replace them with something more productive: gratitude.

Step 1:
Take your Reset notebook around with you today and write down every instance where you complain about something no matter how inconsequential it may seem.
 Step 2:
 For each instance, write down a statement of gratitude to combat the complaint. Think about the “silver lining” in each of your compliant.

I complain a lot, didn't realise that till today, although I wasn't with my book every step of today but I remember some complaining I did.

- I complained about standing up this morning; I slept at 4am and I was tired.

Silver lining: I woke up today, and am grateful to God

- Complained about my stolen jeans, as I would have worn it today

Silver lining: All my cloths are not stolen

- My new students are so playful, annoying and dull (Pardon me)

Silver lining: *Searching* Ok! I get to impact knowledge :D

- I had this emergency clearance today, so I had to rush back and forth from home to work before I could sign *phew*

Silver lining: A lot of other corpers were not around for the head count. So, :D

- It rained, and I had to go back to work, didn't get a bike early, my hair was wet, I was cold..........

Silver lining: This raining season is waaaaaaaaaay better than the hot weather

- Complained about not having what to eat, not having the time to go to d market, not having more options of food to eat *sigh*

Silver lining: I still have food and I'm not starving

- Complained about the light when I got home

Sliver lining: **Still Searching** I mean its NEPA, can there be a lining??? :/

- Complained about the snoring coming from the next room, since my neighbour had this visitor, there has been snoring coming from the room at night

Silver Lining: I have loud music. I sooooo don't envy that guy that has to sleep in the same room with the snorer!!

I know something I didn't complain about. How sweet my food was :D I tried sisi yemi's party jollof rice and I let it buuurrrrrnnnnn and my pot is still soaking, it was gooood, I was so proud of myself!

Although I complained a lot today (Some I can't remember) but am reminded that there can be a silver lining for every complain and we just have to pay attention and be thankful.

who goes back to say "Thanks"?

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I had tears in my eyes, I didn't realise till it fell out, its so hard watching a very very close friend go through stuff and you can't do anything about it, especially when its changing the person and everything they used to believe in. Sometimes I wish I could do more. I really was sad and I said a prayer for him and hopefully he won't slip away. If you find yourself reading this, please don't slip away. I do care!!!

P:s: What do you do when your visitor can't stop snoring???????

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It feels Good!

I did something today and the normal me would get back home from work, curl up in her bed and cry.. But things aint normal anymore, and I'm glad.

I walked back from work a few mins ago (So I could think alil) sitting outside my house and I'm smiling sheepishly to myself really tomilola? I'm so loving this new you!

I must say obeying God feels so good, feels like a weight has been lifted off your shoulder, really for me, it made sense not to do what I did today, but he has been hinting me to do it anyways and todays was the clearest. So I did! I won't say it wasn't hard, but it pays! Now I feel even better than I already felt!


I honestly can't thank God enough for all he has done for me for the past few weeks, I'm still here humble, living everyday and learning even more as the day go by.

All things work together for good for those that love God!!!


P.s: Forgive someone today. It feels good!

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31DayReset: Day 20

Challenge: Remove negative People from your life.

The kind of person I am, I have a default distant-from-negative-people thing going on, most times I would have gone far from the person before I realise sef, which is a good thing I think. All of a sudden it occurred to me that if I keep distancing myself how would I have the opportunity to influence the person positively?
Hmmmmm...... Huge right?
Looking at it from that angle, no one is perfect right? And most times we have alot of negative thoughts ourselves, so instead of just "distancing" myself I would rather filter their energy, try not to get influenced by the negative energy some people expel.
Yeah, too much of everything is not good, and there are some people that are just ALWAYS negative (I know some), those kind of people, instead of totally writing them off, I would pick my conversations with them, definitely nothing personal and once I get the negative vibe from a general conversation, I switch off ( Ask my former boss :x).
Right now, I don't have A LOT of people in my close inner circle life and the ones I have there are hand picked and definitely NOT negative people, I can condone a lil bit of negativity because we gotta be honest we all have some bad energy lurking around somewhere and we need to let it out sometimes however what I can't and would NOT condone is constant, I mean CONSTANT negativity.... If you've not met people like that, I have and they exist and I moved faaaaaaaarr with no regret!!
While I'm moving far from negative people, I would also be working on getting rid of negative thoughts.

P.s: Try and surround yourself with laughter, music and love because what goes in is what comes out.
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This I was meditating upon today:

I know the source. The source is right.
I drank. Still not filled.
I reached out. Thin air.
This is the source. Never been more sure.
What am I missing?
Point to the source of the source? Would you? Let me double check.
I drink. Still empty.
I reach out. Can't grasp.
I won't stop. I will get there.
Even if it takes everything.
I will get there.
To the source of the source.
Then I asked myself, do I really feel empty? Or its just one of those times God feels distant?
Something is missing and I can feel it.
Dear God, Fill me. Show me. Make me understand. Help me. Speak to me!

Thanks for stopping by,
Love!!

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31DayReset: Day 18&19

Challenge: Rest Reflect and Comment

1. What was the most important thing you learnt about yourself this week?

2. What has been your favourite exercise so far and what did you like about it?

3. Which exercise did you struggle with the most and why?

Ans:

1. I learnt that I don't necessary have to go through this alone (Accountability Partner Challenge) and there are little things that make me happy, I've just not been paying so much attention to it. You would just wonder how much time you have to do other stuff when you just drop your phone or ditch the t.v!

2. Writing out my ideal life. Just picturing it alone made me grin from ear-to-ear, gave me a vision as to what I should be working towards and not wasting time on things that don't matter and it also helps my focus.

3. 100 things that make you happy. The difficult part was thinking about the things, although I know I didn't complete 100 but I'm glad I did that little sef, I realised the little things that made me happy and I didn't realise until I took time to really think about it. :D

Day 19: Challenge; Get Rid of stuffs you don't need.

I keep shouting at home that I don't have cloths EVERYTIME!! When I look into my stuffs I keep wondering where this came from, I'm very attached to MY stuff although when I finished from school, I gave out most of my cloths, I still have more. My plan was when I finish from niger I would take more than half my stuff back home (because I plan to go back to school) then again, in the spirit of decongesting I would give out MOST of my everything that I have here, this gives me 2months to start detaching myself from everything *Hot Tears* This is soooo not easy, but even the bible says "Give it shall be given unto you..." So..... *Insert happy face here*

...................................................................................................................I want to highlight a couple of things I learnt personally this week.

* True strength is from the most high
* Life is meant to be shared, I need others in my life
* Life is all about Love
* Relationships are worth restoring
* Learn to forgive
* Sometimes we need to avoid conflict, sometimes we need to create it, and sometimes we need to resolve it.
* Say "I'm Sorry"
* You are where you are for a purpose, Find it.
* Be aware of God's Presence always, because he never leaves.

Thanks for stopping by,

Love!

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31DayReset: Day 17

Challenge: Create a Self Care Plan

Your self care plan should be about you physical and mental health. Getting in tune with your inner and outer self. It should help you become aware about your thoughts, as well as what you put in your body.

My Self Care Plan

- Eat Breakfast
- Try Yoga
- Drink plenty water daily
- Exercise for at least 15mins daily
- Cut out most Junk food
- Get a good therapist
- Write flash cards of God's promises for you.
- Meditate on God's word
- Talk to God
- Talk to myself
- Talk to my friends about stuff

I know I'm behind on this, but Glo hasn't exactly been the network of the year. I'm sorry!


Thanks for stopping by.

Love

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31Day Reset: Day 16

Challenge: Write out 100 things that make you happy

Yeeaahhh!!!! 100?? That's a whole lot, but thinking about it is making me have a huge grin already. Leggo!!

- Buying a book/ Being in a book store
- Hanging out with family
- Hanging out with .....
- Wedges/Shoes
- Making-Up
- Playing Dress up
- Completing a task
- Ticking everything on my to-do list
- Listening to good music
- Staying alone
- My Blog
- Being able to spend my money
- Sope
- Creative Writing
- Reading
- When things go according to plan
- Praise and Worship
- Reading and understanding the word
- Green
- HighLands
- Mountains
- Red Biro
- Black Biro
- Staying up between 1 and 4am
- The Moon
- Kirk Franklin's Songs
- Bracelets
- Twitter
- Burgers
- Looking Slim x_x
- Dates
- Movies
- Making my "lists"
- Dancing
- The smell of books
- Dresses
- A good working laptop
- Creative Photography

100 Yet??? I'm not even counting
- Making fun of my sisters
- Teasing my dad and Mum
- Reading old journals
- Waterfalls
- Pools - bur I cannot swim x_x
- Trying New things
- Good Internet Connection
- My hair
- Sitting long hours in the toilet.
- Long hot bath
- Saturday "make over"
- BBM
- Photoshoot
- ME, Myself and I
- Arike
- Sleek Cars
- Kisses
- Cuddling
- Sunday afternoon Nap
- Good signal on the fine boy antenna
- Did I say shoes?? Okay!!
- Journalssssssssssss!!!!!!!!!
- Thinking aloud while taking a stroll
- Flat Tummy
- Modern interior Designs
- "Serenre" Cooking
- Being naughty

What number now? You not counting too? Okay lemmie go on

- Love
- People trusting me
- Talking to myself.

*Phew*

- Purple
- Being in Church (New found Joy)
- Smokey Eyes
- Peace and Quiet

I don't think its 100 yet but o boy.. This is hard work oh!!

Thinking about it well, just made me realise that there are a lot of things that make me grin from ear to ear without even knowing it. I'm glad!!

Thanks for stopping by,

Love.

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What Matters Most

I have been reading a book over the past 2weeks, Its a day-by-day guide to help discover your life's purpose, this book in many ways than I can explain has helped me deal with things I've been going through these past weeks, something about todays (Day 16) hits me close to home and I felt I should share what I learnt.

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Life is all about Love. God is Love. The most important lesson he wants you to learn on earth is how to love.

"The whole law has been summed up in this command: 'Love others as you love yourself'"

Love should be your top priority, primary objective and greatest ambition. Love is not a good part of your life; its the most important part. Its not enough to say "one of the things I want in life is to be loving" as if its in your top-ten list. Relationships must have priority in your life above everything else. Why? Life without Love is really worthless. Often we act as if relationships are something to be squeezed into our schedule. We talk about "finding" time for our children or "making" time for people in our live. That gives the impression that relationships are just a part of our lives along with many tasks. But God says relationships are what life is all about.

Four of the 10 Commandments deal with our relationship with God while the other Six deal with our relationships with people. But all ten are about relationships! Later, Jesus summarized what matters most to God in two statements: Love God and love people

Matthew 22: 37-40 " You must love the lord your God with all your heart....' This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important 'love your neighbor as yourself' All the other commandments and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments'

Relationships, not achievements or the acquisition of things, are what matters most in life, So who do we allow our relationships get the shorter end of the stick? When our schedule becomes overload, we start skimming relationally, cutting back on giving the time, energy, and attention that loving relationship require. What's most important to God is displaced by what's urgent.

Busyness is a great enemy of relationships. We become preoccupied with making a living, doing work, paying bills, and accomplishing goals as if these tasks are the point of life. They are not. The point of life is learning to love - God and People. Life minus love is Zero.

Why do we make love our priority? Because unlike anything else Love will last forever. Love is eternal.

"These three things continue forever: Faith, hope, and love. And the greatest of these is Love" 1Corinthians 13:13

Love leaves a legacy. How you treated other people, not your wealth or accomplishments, is the most enduring impact you can leave on earth.

"Its not what you do, but how much love you put into it that matters" - Mother Teresa

You never hear anyone on their deathbeds saying "Bring me my diplomas! I want to look at them one more time. Show me my awards, my medals, that gold watch I was given" When life on earth is ending, people don't surround themselves with objects. What we want around us is people - people we love and have relationships with. Wisdom is learning the truth sooner rather than later. Don't wait until you're on your deathbed to figure out nothing matters more.

In heaven God won't say "Tell me about your career, your bank account, and your hobbies" instead he will review how you treated others. When you transfer to eternity all you're taking with you is your character.

The best expression of love is time. The importance of things can be measures by how much time we are willing to invest in them. The more time you give to something, the more you reveal its importance and value to you.

You can make more money, but you can't make more time. When you give someone your time, your giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back. That's why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.
Its not enough to "say" relationships are more important; we must prove it by investing time in them

"My children, our love should not be just words and talk; it must be true love, which shows itself in action" IJohn 3: 18

NOTHING can take the place of you time, your ears, your eyes, your attention, your presence in a relationship. The essence of love is NOT what we thing or do or provide for others, but how much of ourselves we give.

The best use of life is love. The best expression of love is time. The best time to love is now.

Dear God, whether I get anything done today, I want to make sure that I spend time loving you and loving other people - because that's what life is all about. I don't want to waste this day.

P.S: Who says the Bible doesn't have all the Answers?

Thanks for stopping by.

Love.

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31DayReset: Day 14 & 15

Challenge Day 14: Redesign Your day

To redesign my day I've decided to add 30Mins of Exercising early in the morning between 6:30 - 7:00am, and go to bed earlier everyday, so I can wake up early.

Day 15: Ditch TV for 24hours.

Where I am I don't have a Tv and since I've not been on twitter for a while (that's what takes my time) I really don't have anything to ditch.. The point of the ditching was to create time for you to do other things, I spend that time(The one I get from not tweeting) reading and watching movies, so I would just stick to reading today, no series :D

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Jeremiah 32:18 says "You show love to thousands but bring the punishment for the fathers sin into the laps of their children after them......"

We shall not be punished for the sins of our fathers in Jesus name.

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31DayReset: Day 12 & 13

Day 12: Craft your ideal life (Narrative)

Hmmmm...... My ideal life, Simple. I wake up 5am everyday, Spend time with God, workout for 30mins or 1hour Max, my Job is not far away from home, so I don't get to "rush" all the time, I work for a big company that pays me well and I can buy myself plenty shoes ;) Every wednesday evening I get to hang out with my girls and just let go of work stress.

Weekends, I pick my camera and walk the streets and take pictures of things that interest me and other saturdays that I'm not working, I'm pampering myself in a spa :D

Occasional visits to different Orphanages. Adopt a kid at some point.

Love and hangout with my family, Love, Read, Have fun, go to church, be a good daughter, friend and sister.

Basically... :D

Day 13: Conduct Your Time Audit
The Assignment is to critically check what you spend your time. 24Hours Time Audit.

7.00 - 7.30am - Devotion
7.30 - 8.00 am - Bath & Breakfast
8.30 - 6.00pm - Work
(Wednesdays) 5- 6pm - Fellowship
6:00 - 6:30pm - Rest & Dinner
6:30 - ..... - Read/ On my laptop/ Movies/ Twitter/ Sleep

This is how I spend my time everyday, I really don't have anything else doing and I'm getting fat X_X

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Church today was awesome, you know when you get to church and everything speaks to you? From the bible reading to the choir ministration? That's exactly how I felt. Life has been happening to me, but I can only be thankful to God, because he said he would never put more on me than I can bear. I cried to God on friday/Saturday because it felt like I couldn't go on, I cried to him to give me strength before the end of saturday I did feel it. Although everything isn't "perfect" right now, but I know it would get there and now, more than ever, I trust him and I'm happy about where I am why? Because I know he would make it better.

Romans 8: 35-39

"......... Who shall Separate us from the love of Christ"

".....in all these things we are made more than conqueror through Christ the loved us"

I just hope this would give someone hope as much as it have given me.

In other news, I saw something different in this town today that intrigued me, as we know today is Sallah, on my way to church I saw the muslims in the whole town gather (I didn't get the picture of the crowd) So what intrigued me? The love between them, They don't have denominations or different doctrines, they just gather and pray to their God.

It just got me wondering, is love not all that matters?
I think Christians should emulate this.

Thanks for Stopping by.

Love.

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31 Day Reset: Day 11

Today's Challenge: Write a letter to your lizard brain.

What is a lizard brain?
The lizard brain is the epicentre of fear. When you in the clutches of the lizard brain you begin to doubt yourself, you begin to resent the process. You feel yourself wanting to give up and throw in the towel. I've felt this lizard brain a lot of times up until now I really never paid so much attention to the damages it could have caused.

Here is my letter.

Dear Lizard brain,
I've been noticing you popping up at certain points in this challenge and in my life. It seems like everytime I want to do something for my own growth and happiness, you show up and tear me down.
For instance, when I tried to work on the orphanage thing, you showed up in form of procrastination. I wanted to see it through but instead I sabotaged my success by complainung and making excuses.
Another example was when I tried to change my life by eating healthy and exercise, you showed up again. I knew I wanted to change gears, but instead, you told me it was unnecessary.
So I see what you are doing and I don't like it. Yes, I know that you are afraid of change, you're afraid of what will happen if I succeed. But what you have to understand is that whatever happens in my life will work out for my good. I was put here on earth for a purpose and you are keeping me for fulfilling that potential.
Well, until now, you have.
I will no longer allow you to stop my progress in living my ideal life. So the next time I see you, I will simply give you a nod and go about my business.
Its been nice knowing you, but now its time we part ways.
Sincerely,
Morounfoluwa
The Song that comes to mind while typing this is Hello Fear - KirkFranklin

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You know when you know you've made progress and all of a sudden you take a step back? I broke down early this morning and I'm at work atm and I just don't feel good, it has nothing to do with this challenge, but when I said to God at that moment "I know I'm supposed to be trusting you and I'm not doing it, I'm sorry" It kept ringing "Its okay to cry, nobody is perfect".
I'm going through a phase, and I'm learning everyday, in ways I couldn't have imagine, although I might cry a lot till I get better, I've realised that its okay. While I still try to make sense of what I'm going through, I stay trusting him.

Thanks for stopping by.

Love.

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31 Day Reset: Day 10

Challenge: Today's assignment is to find an accountability partner - someone who can hold you responsible for your own success and progress in pursuing your ideal life.

What is an accountability partner?

• a friend, family member, co-worker, mentor, coach or someone else you can trust to help you keep a commitment
• someone on the same path as you or simply willing to help you in your specific journey
• someone who can help you stay on track toward reaching your goals
• someone who stands firm and won't let you get away with making excuses or procrastinating
• someone who will ask you all those difficult questions we tend to avoid

I have 3 Accountability Partners that have been there for me over the years, and i'm sure they wont leave me now. But for this exercise, which is something i feel i need to do on my own with God by my side, i am going to be my own accountability partner. If i don't even learn anything from this challenge, I've learnt to be honest with myself, so God helping me i would be doing the periodic evaluation of my life to measure progress.

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31 Day Reset: Day 9

Challenge: Do one thing

Your "One thing" must/should meet atleast on of the following criteria:

- Something you've been procrastinating on for a long time

- Something that terrifies you

- Something that Inspires you

The action must be tangible and measurable.

So what did I do today?

When I first did the reset, I bought a new bible as a symbol of my re-dedication but that was 2 Months ago, but today I just really wanted to cook. But errrmmmm *Scratchs head* Okay, I just got back and I don't really have anything at home and I can't have time to go to the market till saturday... So I guess I have to postpone - Again! X_X and I think that's the point for today's challenge, but I guess :(

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31 Day Reset: Day 8

Challenge: Rest, Reflect and Comment

Q1. What is the most important thing you learnt about yourself this week?

That I have neglected the things that mean a lot to me and I realise I could be happier by just remembering and being thankful for the things that I have going good for me.

Q2. What has been your favourite exercise so far and what did you like about it?

The Love letter to the future me. The fact that I can envision myself not being a quitter (its a form of motivation) knowing you've gifted yourself for the exercise and waiting for the gift.

3. What exercise did you struggle with the most and why?

Day 4: Identifying the values, it was hard to dig out the stuffs that mattered to me because I had lost sight of most of it and narrowing them down to 10? That was hard

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First Week, done. Now I don't have constant internet access anymore, so I to make do with my phone, which means I have to type on my phone too :( So, I would post late.....

I'm really excited about the work-in-progress going on in my life, I suddenly started thinking a lot deeper x_x I'm even scared sef, I shuu nor go and be thinking what I shuu nor think. Issokai. I just keep hoping for the best *Fingers Crossed*

Good Morning People.


Thanks for sticking around.

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31 Day Reset: Day 7

Challenge: Create a Life map

 A life map is essentially a visual/text representation of what your ideal life looks like. It's really and truly one of the most powerful personal development tools for both envisioning and creating a "map" for the path to your own happiness.

Keep in mind that your life map should be in accordance with your values and your personal mission statement. The idea is that now that you've got a sense of where your life is, you can begin to think more clearly about where exactly you want it to go

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31 Day Reset: Day 6

Challenge: Write a Personal Mission Statement

Your mission statement should be a representation of what's most important in your life, what you want to focus on, who you want to become in the purest form. Simply put your values + values in action.

My Personal Mission Statement.

I value my relationship with God, I want to improve on that relationship by constantly praying, praising, meditating on his word and Communicating with him. I value the relationships God has put in my life because I know everything is for a purpose and I want to keep being a better person and making the people in my life happy, not complaining and being as understanding as I can. I value the relationship I have with my family, I want to spend more time with them, buy gifts for special occasions in their lives and be there for them in the best way I can.
I love nature and would love to hold a camera and see life through the lens.
I want to live my life with love for everything and everyone around me, not neglecting the need to help the orphans. Always remember to have positive attitude to life, take care of myself, dress good, look good, exercise and eat well. Remember, Its life. Live it, Learn it, Love it.

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The feeling You get, as a member of a family where it feels like your needs aint as important as every other persons? I get that feeling a lot, and I'm sure some of you too feel the same way, so I travelled back to Niger state today - why my post is late - Let's just say I've seen better days. Brings me to my question (and answer). Why do "they" treat some of us differently in our families? Like you wonder "Was I adopted or what?" Truthfully, I've dealt with this for a long while and as I grew older, I decided to let it go and stop asking myself questions I can't answer and we are in Nigeria, you can't just wake up one morning and start asking your folks "Silly" Questions - You chop winch for sleep? -

Gladly, I got my answer a few days ago and I didn't have to go through the whole "process" I've heard a lot of times that "Everything happens for a reason" "Life is a test" and I was reminded a few days ago, Not until today after crying my eyes out on my way out of the house, it made perfect sense.

Life is a test. God tests us in different ways, now how we manage it is the issue, that is why he said we should ask for direction (Proverbs 3:5-6).

This phase of my life has been really humbling for me, learning and putting all that I learnt into practise. My prayer for us today is for us to be able to manage every test, opportunity, family, relationship God has put in our lives. Amen.

P.S: Someone wrote to me today about how my posts lately has helped her to want to be a better person. I'm so so grateful to God and I have no regrets for putting this out here.

Thanks for stopping by.

Love.

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31 Day Reset: Day 5

Today's Challenge: Envision Your Values in Action

This challenge is helping you to incorporate your values into your daily life. Divided into two parts, the first part requires you to compare your values to how you’re currently living the life and score yourself on a scale of 1-10. Am i currently living my values? 

1. Relationship with God - 4
2. Family - 6
3. Relationship - 6
4. Friendship - 2
5. Helping - 2
6. Financial Stability - 7
7. Professional Achievement - 3
8. Healthy Living, Physical appearance, make-up - 5
9. Nature and photography - 0
10. Technology and books - 2

I really don't have to remind myself that this result is very poor. Honestly assessing yourself can be one of the hardest things, its like hearing you tell yourself what you don't want to hear from other people. *PHEW*

The second part of the exercise requires that you list at least three actions you are currently taking or should be taking in order to honor and fulfill your values in life

1. Relationship With God - Buy a new bible to remind me  of my re-dedication. Spend time reading the word and writing down what you learn. Fast and Pray alot more.

2. Family - Be more open with my family and encourage them. Talk to them about your issues honestly. Hang out alot more. Continue to prepare myself to be a wonderful wife and mother.

3. Relationship - Be available. Be supportive, understanding and complain less. talk more. Be hopeful and have faith.

4. Friendship: Be the kind of friend i would want to have. Care. Be available. Hang out more.

5. Helping: Stop being lazy about it. leave the drawing board and start acting. Be Available.

6. Financial Stability: Save (No unnecessary spending). Save (Buy what you need, not what you want) and Save

7. Professional Achievement: Get money, enroll for classes, Get certified.

8.  Healthy Living, Physical appearance, make-up: Stop being lazy about exercising. Stop the bad eating habit. work on getting a Nigerian diet plan.

9. Nature and Photography: Read up on it. Ask questions. practice.

10. Technology and books: Get more hard cover books. Stop being lazy. read. read and Read.

This was all levels of hard, i just put myself out there and it feels good, i don't think I've been this vulnerable with myself. 

So, What would it look like for you to be able to rate yourself a "10' on how you live out all your values?

The Truth is my world would be perfect and i will be extremely happy all day, everyday with the strength to take whatever challenge daily living throws at me because of the knowledge that things are fine in the background of my life, but then this is just an assumption and the truth is i'm not the perfect 10 so i guess i would just keep working on me and obey, obey Proverbs 3: 5-6

"Trust in the lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your path"

Why do i love this passage so much? because its an all round answer to every situation you find yourself. While you reading this, tell him and trust him. It's worked for me.

Thanks for sticking around

Love.

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31 Day Reset: Day 4

Challenge: Identify your Values

Write a free-for-all list of all the things that mean alot to you in your life, all the things you care about.

1. Relationship with God
2. Family, Love, Relationship with them
3. Romantic Relationship
4. Having people to call me a true friend and vice-versa
5. Having a family, Children, Love
6. Helping in the society (Orphans)
7. Professional Achievement
8. Financial Stability
9. Nature
10. Photography
11. Mental stability, Emotional Stability
12. Healthy Living, Physical Appearance
13. Fashion, Make-up, looking good and sophisticated
14. Technology, Books
15. Having a positive Attitude

The second phase of the exercise is to choose your RESET 10, which is a list of your top 10 values from the above list. 

RESET 10

1. Relationship with God
2. Family
3. Relationship
4. Friendship
5. Helping
6. Financial Stability
7. Professional Achievement
8. Healthy Living, Physical appearance, make-up
9. Nature and photography
10. Technology and books

Writing the list wan't the problem but narrowing them down to 10 was the issue. I must say tho', identifying your values and the things you care about just puts alot of things into perspective for you and you realise how much time you've been wasting on things that don't matter to you. So, even if you won't do the whole challenge take sometime out and identify your values. it helps.

Thanks for sticking around.

 

Love.

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31 day Reset: Day 3

Today's Challenge: Write a love letter to your future self

Today's challenge is a two part challenge that helps put perspective to yesterday's challenge and makes you accountable for the whole exercise, so you write a love letter to yourself and e-mail it to your future self as a reward for your exercise. cool right? :)

Here is my love letter to me

Dear Future Morounfoluwa,

I'm really proud of you and the progress you have made in recent times, you have grown and learnt alot over the past few months, and saying i'm proud is an understatement.

I always want you to constantly remember the things in your life that you should be grateful for, God's love for you, the great family you have, wonderful sisters that love each other and love you and would always love you through thick and thin.

Also, be grateful for God's constant good  health, the ability to be able to control what you think and always remind yourself to stay happy despite the situation thereby keeping you mentally and emotionally stable, glad you have been exercising and eating right.

You should also be grateful for the peace and quiet you enjoy at this stage of your life and also the opportunity to teach and impact knowledge to those students and also the opportunity i also have to help.

Also remember to be thankful for the kind of girl you are, that you don't feel comfortable owing people and the ability to make a decision about my savings and stick to it, be grateful that at least you are earning something and making a living.

be grateful to God for your best friend, the fact that you can be totally vulnerable, open and honest with him about everything, grateful that he is always out to make you happy and you guys have a special friendship going one (that is so hard to come by these days)

ALWAYS remember to let go of things that won't add to your life and please and please stop beating yourself up over past mistakes, its the past, leave it there and move on. So glad that your life is so much better now and its all because of your effort (no one could have done it for you) and hard work. I'm so proud of you. keep it up.

No human loves you more than i do. Kisses. 

Tomilola

P.S: Don't forget to always do what you love and live.

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31 Day Reset: Day 2

Challenge: Take an Honest Assessment of your life

The purpose of this challenge today is:

1. To force you to own up to exactly which areas you'd like to improve upon in your life.
2. To give you encouragement to build on what's already great about it

Who said being honest with one's self was easy?

This challenge requires me to state my likes and dislikes about specific areas of my life (honestly, like who am i deceiving right)

Areas of Assessment:

1. Lifestyle (Satisfaction with where you live/living environment, how you spend your leisure time): 

Likes: I like the peace and quiet that i get from living here, i also like that i get to live the independent life, not worrying about someone taking care of me.

Dislikes: Moving to the northern part of the country living in a semi - village doesn't give alot options for things to do with free time (which i happen to have alot of). don't like that i'm so far from civilization, the heat and the mother of all I'm boring.

2. Work (Satisfaction with where you work right now, what you do to earn your living):

I'm Currently serving in a School.

Likes: Love that i get to impact knowledge to my students and they love me. The free internet i get also makes me keep it together when i get tired

Dislikes: I don't like that my boss  just takes advantage of me and dumps all his responsibility on me, makes the job frustrating. Don't like that everyday after my class, i have nothing to do.

3. Education (Satisfaction with your educational attainment to date - college, vocational school and other learning goals):

Likes: Despite losing a year during my secondary school years, my education is so fast - and i love it. I love what i went to spent 4 years learning more about. Computers.

Dislikes: As much as i worked so hard to make up for my first year in college, i didn't make a 2nd class upper, i've stopped beating myself up over it (If you reading this and you in your first year, please read well. Its the most important time for your result.) I want more certifications but right now, i don't have resources and this village doesn't help much.

4. Finances (the current state of your budget/money management, salary, net worth, debt-to-income ratio)

Likes: Love that i have a steady income although small but i still stick to my monthly savings. I try my best to pay my debts (Whenever i have them). I have a "buy what you need, not what you want" policy with the exceptions of special cravings (Try not to deny myself of those) 

Dislikes: Hate i don't have a larger savings

5. Health (the current state of your mental, physical and spiritual health - mind, body, soul)

Likes: Like that i don't fall ill alot. Writing and talking to myself puts helps me maintain a mental balance. i fee; emotionally stable too, don't have anything to worry about

Dislikes: Hate that i don't stick to my exercise and i eat alot. Hate that its so hard to find a diet routines with the type of food we have in this country. I hate the asthma. Don't like that i get easily depressed by the smallest things and it affects my way of thinking.

6. Family (the quality of your relationships with family members, siblings, children)

Likes: Like that we still talk about family plans together as a family. My sisters and i try to be involved in each others lives and we encourage and pray for each other. I love my family

Dislikes: I wish we could be closer to my dad. Hate that we don't hang out outside the house. hate that we are not always together for every holiday.

7. Relationships (the quality of your relationships with friends and romantic partners)

 

Likes: I have a couple of friend that i could hang out with and act totally crazy and it would be totally cool. Love that i have a few friends that i could talk to about things bothering me without fear of being judged. Love that he makes me happy, i absolutely love him and i feel super comfortable with him

Dislikes: With where i am now, everybody is far from me. hate the distance that keeps me from my friends. Not having any close friend in this place has made living here alot harder. I hate that i have not been silly with him in a while.

Tried to make this as short as possible. This is particularly hard to look back on because this is old and alot of things have changed since i did this reset, i'm in a better place in my life right now, so i can only be grateful.

Thanks for sticking around.

Love   

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31 day Reset: Day 1 - Start Here

Hi People. Been a while, i know x_x

My Sister sent me this link to check it out, it was about "Happy Black Women" and 31 days challenge to reset your life, at that time i was going through a low point in my life and decided to try it out, i had nothing to lose right? So i did and honestly it really helped me put alot of things into perspective, although I've finished i want to share with the world.

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Today, we begin. For the next 31 days, you will be working to develop your inner self and create new possibilities for your life. Each day of the program will require you to complete an exercise that will help you get back on track to becoming the happy, healthy, successful person you were meant to be.

To get the most out of this challenge, I suggest you set aside time each day to read the #31DayReset posts, complete the assignments and share your results on your blog or here in the comments. Simply being a passive lurker will not yield quite as powerful a return as being active with your fellow participants! I look forward to your growth this month - just as much as my own.

The following three-part exercise will help to prepare you fully for the month ahead.

Choose a reset Notebook: I bought a book that i'm going to use just for this purpose 

Choose a personal Mantra: I choose 

"The Journey of a 1000 years starts with a step"

"Trust in the lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your path - Proverbs 3: 5-6"

"Life: learn it. Live it. love it."

Choose a theme song: 

Hold me now - Kirk Franklin

Comforter - Cece Winanas

Camouflage - Brandy

Boundless Love

These Songs have helped me in many ways that i cannot explain, especially kirk franklin's songs, it has a way of speaking to your soul *sigh*

If you want to try it out click here

The Experience is totally worth it.

Do come on this journey with me. Thanks 

Love.

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